Late-Diagnosed and Wondering “Now What?”: Therapy for Neurodivergent Women

You got the diagnosis. Maybe it was ADHD. Maybe autism. Maybe you’re self-identified and don’t feel the need for a label at all. Either way, something inside you clicked and said: Oh. This explains so much.

And now… you’re just supposed to go on with life?

If you’re a late-diagnosed woman, you already know the path here wasn’t simple. For most of us, it’s paved with decades of masking, misdiagnosis, pushing through, and pretending we were fine. We got praised for being “high-functioning” while quietly unraveling under the weight of it all.

So once the relief wears off—the “finally, I’m not just lazy or broken”—there’s often this next layer: Now what do I do with this?

The truth? It’s a lot to process

Realizing you’re neurodivergent can stir up a whole lifetime of questions:

• Who am I underneath all the masking?

• Why didn’t anyone notice sooner?

• What needs to change—and what do I actually want to change?

• How do I make peace with the grief, the anger, the missed years?

These aren’t just identity questions. They’re nervous system questions. They’re “how do I stop abandoning myself” questions.

Therapy can be the space where you start to explore all of it—gently, at your own pace, and without judgment.

It’s not just about ADHD tools or coping strategies

Yes, we’ll talk about executive function. About how to track appointments, build routines, manage overstimulation, and navigate burnout. But deeper than that, this work is about unlearning shame.

You’ve probably spent years trying to “get it together” in systems that weren’t built for your brain. Maybe you’ve twisted yourself in knots trying to be the perfect partner, mom, daughter, or employee. You might be burnt out but still showing up for everyone but yourself.

This is the space to lay that down.

Late-diagnosed doesn’t mean late to the party

I work with women who are brilliant, intuitive, and so incredibly hard on themselves. Women who’ve always felt a little out of step, who’ve tried so hard to adapt, who are tired of chasing normal. Women who want to reconnect with their own rhythm—and learn how to live from that place, not in spite of it.

Whether you’re feeling relief, grief, rage, or confusion (or all of the above), therapy can help you build clarity, compassion, and momentum.

You don’t have to keep powering through. You don’t have to do it alone.

If you’re ready to work with someone who gets this part of the journey—I’d be honored to walk with you.