Support for emotional disconnection, mixed-neurotype dynamics, and stuck relationship patterns

Whether you're navigating ADHD, mixed-neurotype differences, or the quiet grief of disconnection, couples therapy can help you rebuild trust and safety.

You may be dealing with missed cues, emotional shutdowns, reactivity, or the feeling that you're living in parallel worlds. For some couples, ADHD plays a clear role. For others, it's a deeper attachment pattern that keeps repeating.

Many couples therapists aren't trained to work with neurodivergence or attachment—and standard approaches often miss the mark.

I specialize in attachment-based couples therapy with expertise in ADHD and neurodivergent relationships. Together, we’ll build clarity, communication, and emotional connection—in ways that actually work for both of you.

Couples Counseling

Why ADHD and Attachment-Based Couples Therapy Requires a Different Lens

It's not just about communication—it's about neurobiology and nervous system safety.

Working with ADHD or mixed-neurotype relationships means understanding executive function differences, rejection sensitivity, and dopamine-seeking behaviors—alongside the deep attachment ruptures that happen when partners don’t feel seen or understood.

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Common Focus Areas for Couples

  • Navigating mixed-neurotype dynamics (ADHD + non-ADHD)

  • Communication breakdowns and frequent misunderstandings

  • Feeling lonely, disconnected, or stuck in reactive cycles

  • Rekindling intimacy after parenting, burnout, or long periods of distance

  • Sharing responsibilities—home, parenting, finances—in ways that feel fair

  • Managing emotional reactivity, shutdown, or rejection sensitivity

  • Building safety, teamwork, and mutual respect

My Approach to Couples Work

This work honors both partners and affirms neurodivergent experiences.

My approach is structured and practical—but deeply relational. I help you name the patterns, slow them down, and start relating differently—not just reacting out of habit or history.

My work blends:

  • ADHD psychoeducation + sustainable strategies

  • Attachment theory + nervous system awareness

  • ACT for values-based growth

  • The Gottman Method for tangible tools

  • Emotionally Focused Therapy to rebuild safety

  • The Developmental Model for relationship stages

  • RLT (Relational Life Therapy) for power, boundaries, and repair

When needed, I may also do short-term individual sessions with one partner to support follow-through, emotional regulation, or executive functioning.

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Why We Start with a Relationship Assessment

No more guesswork—we begin with clarity.

Before diving into regular sessions, we use a structured assessment to map out your strengths, struggles, and patterns. This gives us a roadmap grounded in research—not assumptions.

You’ll be guided to the best-fit tool:

  • Gottman Relationship Checkup: for long-term partners or couples facing frequent conflict

  • Prepare/Enrich: for newer couples, blended families, or transitions like moving in or parenting

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My Clinical Lens

Couples therapy deserves more than talk-it-out sessions. I’ve completed advanced training in:

  • ADHD and neurodivergent relationships

  • Attachment-based therapy

  • Gottman Method

  • Emotionally Focused Therapy

  • The Developmental Model

  • Relational Life Therapy (RLT)

Whether you're navigating neurodivergence, attachment injuries, or just feel like you’re on different planets—I’ll support you to reconnect with clarity, care, and practical tools.

FAQ: Couples Therapy for Attachment & Neurodivergent Relationships

  • Not at all. Whether one or both partners identify as neurodivergent, are exploring ADHD or autism traits, or simply know something feels “off” in your dynamic—this space is for you.

  • ADHD and mixed-neurotype couples often face unique challenges around communication, task management, emotional regulation, and fairness in the relationship. I use frameworks that honor both partners’ nervous systems and help shift the patterns, not just the symptoms.

  • Yes. Therapy can be a space to gain clarity about your relationship—whether that means strengthening your connection, shifting how you navigate conflict, or deciding how to move forward.

  • Yes. My practice is inclusive of open, polyamorous, and nontraditional relationships. The work we do together will be tailored to your relationship structure, agreements, and values.

  • Yes—I offer telehealth across North Carolina. Many of my couples prefer virtual sessions for accessibility, especially when managing busy schedules or different sensory needs.